Is Mediation An Option for You In Your Santa Rosa Divorce

June 18, 2013, by Law Offices of James V. Sansone
By Law Offices of James V. Sansone on June 18, 2013 8:00 AM |

i-mediation.jpgYou always worked hard, took care of the children, and managed the household. When your husband was away from the home, you trusted him when he said he was working.

But recently you discovered that your once loyal spouse has a lover and you want to file your divorce and get what you deserve.

Or perhaps you're marriage has simply devolved into petty fights. You fight over who forgot to return the milk to the refrigerator or about who was supposed to make the bed in the morning.

If any of these scenarios seem familiar, then you are probably not a candidate to resolve your divorce with mediation.

But if you don't have children and you and your spouse still like each other, then mediation is a better option for separating your assets and moving on with your lives.

You Can Save Money with Mediation

A mediator is a neutral third-party, which can be a lawyer, who assists couples in reaching agreements as they separate their community property.

Mediation has become an increasingly popular alternative to divorce lawsuits. In fact, in 1998 California's legislative branch revised the California family code to accommodate consumers' desire to have a more affordable divorce option.

Mediation is definitely less costly than a lawsuit as long as the parties agree to amicably reach agreement on how they will separate their assets.

How to Work with a Mediator

The first step to finding a lawyer to mediate your divorce is to find someone who isn't a friend or colleague of one of the spouses. To be effective, mediators need to be impartial otherwise only one of the parties will benefit. It's also important to find a mediator with whom you feel comfortable.

The mediator will expect you to be able to communicate openly and honestly, despite what can be an emotional situation.

Mediation works best when both parties communicate well with each other and can easily agree to an outcome.

Even though you elect to resolve your differences through mediation, it is still important to hire a family law lawyer who can advise you on how to proceed during the mediation and help you to determine what might constitute a fair settlement. Without this additional review of your assets, you might settle for less than you should.

A lawyer can also inform you of your legal rights and options, coach you through the negotiations, help you to come up with settlement ideas, and assist with the preparation of final paperwork.

Do you have questions about custody, guardianships, children's issues, or spousal support? If so, call me or schedule a consultation with the Law Offices of James V. Sansone at 707-623-1875 or contact me by email. You can find additional information on family law, children's issues, spousal support, domestic violence as well as a list of resources you'll find helpful on our website.