Are you experiencing a messy divorce? The kind where tensions run high, financial threats are made, or allegations about child abuse are being lodged at you?
This may not be much consolation, but you're not alone.
People get irate during divorces. Pent up frustration about perceived slights tend to balloon. Fears about financial blackmail creep up. People become terrified about losing a portion of their income, the family home, their children, and their retirement funds.
If you were financially comfortable while you were married, you'll likely feel as though you have little to no disposable income for a while. Yes, you suddenly have attorney's fees and court costs to pay. However, it's also true that when two people split up, they each must begin to pay their own mortgage payments for their respective homes with half the income they were accustomed to enjoying.
Splitting Up Households Means Your Costs Will Rise
It's not exactly true that two people can live as cheaply as one but two people who live separately spend more money on just the basics of life.
Throw children into the mix and you have the added cost of child support, medical insurance and medical costs.
Some spouses may threaten that they'd rather see their attorneys get all of their money rather than their ex-spouses. Alternatively maybe an ex-husband threatens to reveal something that could prevent his ex-wife from getting a shared custody arrangement.
There are numerous issues over which a couple can argue simply because they are mad, they want to "get even," or they want the other person to suffer. With allegations flying and fears worsening, it can be difficult to remain calm when the financial and emotional foundation of your life is cracking. And that's the essence of an emotionally-trying divorce, right?
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